Therapy is one of the hardest things you’ll ever do in your life - but I can promise you, that although it is not a linear journey, and the measurements aren’t won in strides, it works. It took years for Romans 8:1 to connect with me, the relentless lies had rooted so strongly. It took years to begin to ‘know’ what Romans 12 was. Boundaries were a bewilderment. It took years to see the people of faith that did came alongside in love and healthiness and with healing, because I didn’t understand what what those things were. In my own case, I still fight panic sometimes, the difference is I’ve been given the tools to understand it and go through.
He never left me. He never failed me. He never made demands. He loved, cared for and brought those along side who who honoured my dignity and worth as a human being. He healed.

I wish churches saw it’s children - young or old - as worthy of safety, of care, of healing. Some do, more need to. It’s not God’s fault.
Thanks for sharing your journey, as you fight for your peace and your understanding of place, go under the mercy.

The issue certainly did affect the people in the region - I think expectations in some church environments can cause great harm. So can alcohol, gambling, drugs, finances and all kinds of things.

If you read about this family the expectation stressors where there for sure.

The fact she was a victim of a check kiting scheme is also chilling, if news reports are to be believed, she got conned. The shame and fear and inability to reach out for help is something I think all of us can identify with.