4th of July

To my friends to the south…Happy Independence Day!

There, I guess King George will be able to read that. – John Hancock
after signing the Declaration of Independence

About Bene Diction

Have courage for the great sorrows, And patience for the small ones. And when you have laboriously accomplished your tasks, go to sleep in peace. God is awake.
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3 Responses to 4th of July

  1. Kathy says:

    Thank you–from an American with Canadian grandparents. We had a nice 4th of July.

    Hope you don’t mind me changing the subject!

    I am a new visitor to your blog, having found it listed in the Pearls’ latest newsletter. Near the end of the newsletter your blog is named and linked to as an example of anti-parents-rights internet voices who should be drowned out by Pearl followers in order to protect the rights of families to continue parenting the Pearl way.

    While I can’t say I agree with everything you write, I’m here to say thank you for the posts where you raised the issue of the Pearls and their parenting advice.

    The Pearls are not garden variety Christian parenting authors who happen to recommend the occasional spanking. No–the Pearls’ practices and ideas are extreme and fringe. Because they have some good, rather normal things to say about what good parenting entails, young parents who lack a yardstick for what is and is not normal can become confused and fail to find the right side of the line between the sensible and the lunacy.

    Be that as it may, I struggle to understand how anyone can approve of the passage in their book where Michael Pearl describes an incident where his wife picked up a plastic toy and repeatedly and progressively harder struck her friend’s two-year-old with it, all because the two year old hit her first.

    Regardless of whatever good points they have made elsewhere in the book, the authors obviously are not normal and are not describing normal, mature methods of discipline.

    It’s discouraging and upsetting to see them promoted and mainstreamed in normal Christian venues and circles.

    Christians really DO need to clean their own houses, and be willing to correct the weird and wacko when it arises in our midst.

    Thank you for your efforts in your blog.

  2. Bene D says:

    Hi Kathy:

    Thank you.
    A blogger sent me the latest Pearls newsletter.
    It’s quite the infomercial.


    I wrote about the Pearls over two years ago:


    Bit silly to point out a few small blogs and even sillier to be so thin skinned. Anti-parent rights people?

    It’s a fear based authoritarian sales pitch.

    There hasn’t been much, a couple of emails, a couple of comments, it isn’t anywhere near a drowning, it’s more like a drizzle.

  3. deb says:


    Thank you for your work on the Pearls. I, too, came from an abusive home life and am appalled by the Pearls. I won’t to talk about them on my blog but I am a bit wary to do so. Some of their followers seem very angry.

    I, too, was disturbed by Debi Pearl’s striking an infant with a hard plastic toy. But I think that it is a example of the Pearl’s duplicity. There is no way that a adult could strike a two year old full force with a plastic toy repeatedly without leaving a bruise. That, of course, is left out of the Pearl’s account of the story.

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